Would You Abort A Gay Baby?

A New Hampshire resident asked a very conservative candidate . I did not hear the answer, but knowing his double-barrelled views on choice and homosexuals, I truly hope this question keeps him up nights for the rest of his life.

Full disclosure. I am pro-choice. I support LGBT equal rights. I am a mother. From a very early age, when my first child was born, I intuitively knew the baby could be a gay boy or girl. Sort of a for me. It also didn't bother me.  

I was rooting for a girl, got a girl, and was very happy about. I never spent a second worrying about anything but her health and growth and if she had signalled being gay as she grew older - then that would have been fine. Some years later, I had a boy. It was a problem pregnancy and all I wanted was a healthy child. I got one and again - never worried about gender feelings.

Times socially had changed by the time he was in his teens, and I asked him once straight-out how he felt about homosexuality, and he said it didn't matter to him. He knew that it was not a secret he need keep. I think I asked my daughter too, and she said she liked guys and that was it. My son and I became estranged long ago (his idea) and so there are many things about his young adult life I know nothing about. He may be gay or straight. Doesn't matter. I would simply love to see him again.

The point here is that there are - in my opinion -  four possibilities when you have a pregnancy. A boy, a girl, gay or straight. My only concern would be the difficulty gay children experience, and this is one reason I am so equal rights emphatic. No one wants his or her little kid bullied, and homophobic parents encourage homophobic kids.  

But the question asked of the candidate raised the question of aborting a pregnancy, because the fetus was gay. Homosexuality - in my opinion - is not a birth defect and is not something "treatable or fixable," because there is nothing to treat or fix.

Sadly, our brave new world is far less different in terms of reproduction than WW2's German eugenics. We rephrase it and beautify the term, but in point of fact - genetic engineering and eugenics dwell in the same test tube - it is the motivations that differ, and perhaps it will come to pass that they overlap. I do not hope for that day to come soon. We are simply not evolved enough.

Should gayness be something an expectant parent can know - like gender, I can't answer that one. But I cannot envision making that a reason for any gratuitous choice.  A wanted, healthy baby is what you hope for, so you should love your child. The end. Oh and maybe vote for Obama - but that is a choice that is personal. Choose wisely.

I think the candidate was pushed between a rock and a hard place. I do not know if he knew his daughter had Trisomy 18 before she was born. He makes his stand quite firmly on the sin of abortion, but if this girl had been found to be a little, soft, sweet cooing girl whom he knew would be a lesbian - what would he have done? I doubt we will ever know. I doubt he does either.